Communication between different cultures

Communication between different cultures
As a scholar from China, this is the first time I stepped into a different culture. Knowing very little about the culture of Singapore, I encountered a lot of embarrassments and difficulties. Some of those situations made strong impressions on me and I wanted to explore more about them. Eventually, I learned a lot from my explorations, including doing research, conducting interviews and doing self-study. Among those, what intrigued me most is the experience related to the special relationship.
When the local befrienders first brought us to play games, I intended to hold a male-senior抯 hand as we always do in China to show our friendliness to him. To my surprise, that senior became a little angry with me and he walked quicker trying to let go of my hands. What he did shocked me and I asked other local friend for reason. They answered because it destroyed their personal comforting zone. Having gone through this, I began to contemplate and did some research on it.
What is personal comforting zone and how do different cultures view different concept of communication space? How can a Chinese intelligentsia like me communicate better in such a 21st century multicultural university with other students from different culture?
Therefore, this essay will focus more on the essence of communication than its mechanism. 
I found from my previous experiences that I am from a different culture and we have different ways of communication. However, as a reprehensive of my country, I need to find the common ground of our communication. This is exactly the meaning of university, which is union in a community, unity in diversity. This is first lesson I have to, I want to, and I must learn during my journey in NUS. Even if I get into USP and graduate with first class honor without mastering this, I still fail in my university life.
I am convinced that it is the essence of communication that gives quality, meaning, value, life and illumination to our social intercourse. For instance, if what I have experienced when I first stepped into a different culture made me feel depressed and not willing to be with them again, of course I will fail to communicate with people from different cultures. What I need is the perseverance in my adjustment to this spatial communication.
When a person just listens to you with all his attention, you will be willing to talk to him no matter which culture he is from. This kind of sincerity imbues quality to communication with its purity of attention to your communications.
When a person has a sense of humor when he is talking to somebody, you will think the conversation with him is very funny and you will become pleasant instead of bored in your discussions. It is humility that brings the life to communication.
Moreover, when a person tells you the true feeling, true experience or true news, you will be sure to participate in your communication willingly and also learn some significant edification. This shows the truth imbues illumination to conversation.
All the perseverance, sincerity, humility, and truth are the common ground of our social communication, no matter where you are from.
These are my ways of learning and exploring from my own experience. Even if I cannot get into USP, I will still stick to this kind of thinking and learning, and I hope the professors can agree with the common ground in our communication and hope this can help all the people communicate better.